It seemed like a good idea to listen. 

I was curious about how people have experienced fear and love at work, and what we could learn from those stories. So I started talking to people.  At first, I asked friends at dinner. I asked people on the bus. I talked to colleagues over coffee. Everyone had a story and wanted to share theirs. My first formal interview was on Valentine's Day 2017.  <3  No kidding. Since then I've gathered more than 45 stories through interviews and research workshops. The content of those stories are analyzed. Themes and insights from those interviews form the inspiration for and content of the blog and of talks. You can participate in the research too. I'd love to learn your story. Here's how it works.

ONE ON ONE INTERVIEWS

One on one interviews take about an hour and can be in person or over the phone. You'll be asked two basic prompts.

1. Tell me a story about a time when you felt fear at work. Fear might mean threatened, anxious, terrified, harassed, worried or other similar feelings.

What happened? What did you do? What did others do? How did this impact you? Your work? What did this mean to you?

2. Tell me a story about a time when you felt loved at work. Love might mean care, acceptance, respect, belonging, trust, or other similar feelings. 

What happened? What did you do? What did others do? How did this impact you? Your work? What did this mean to you?

Fear and love Research workshops

The concept is simple: Gather a diverse group of 6-8 people for one day to share stories of fear and love. Begin by building trust and connection. Create safety and agreements about confidentiality. Then pair participants up and guide them to explore their stories of fear in the morning, and love in the afternoon (because love should be in the afternoon, right?) We listen, value, empathize, and reflect. Then the group discusses insights and so better understands fear and love at work. These insights contribute to the research.

What is clear

Fear at work takes a terrible toll on individuals, teams, organizations, and on families too. Work suffers. Relationships suffer. Health suffers. People withdraw, withhold, and leave. Everyone loses when fear is allowed to fester, or worse, when fear is intentionally used as a management tool. 

Love at work, on the other hand, supports and unleashes human potential. When people feel loved by a leader, by their team, or by an organization, they report being happier, healthier, and more energetic. They want to be at work. They innovate. They create. They take risks, try out new ideas, and discover solutions. They give their all. Customers are satisfied. Teams and organizations flourish. This is the power of love in the workplace.


Share your story of love and fear

The research is ongoing. If you would like to participate, fill out the form below, and I will contact you to arrange an interview or your participation in a research workshop. 

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